Good leadership is built one insight at a time. The leaders who keep growing are the ones who never stop asking better questions of themselves.
Every week I show up with one idea, one question, and a few minutes of thinking worth having. It’s not advice, or another framework to implement - just something worth sitting with, the kind of thing that has a way of surfacing exactly when you need it.
The Weekly 1:1™ publishes every Tuesday at 8am PT. It's free, it's short, and it's yours to listen to or read before the rest of the week takes over.
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Are you coachable?
Coachability gets talked about a lot in leadership circles. But what does it actually require? This week I'm writing about what it really takes to let coaching work, and what becomes possible when you stop managing the conversation and start trusting it.
How do you know that you know what you know?
Most of us think of negotiation as something that happens at a table with something significant at stake. But there's a negotiation that happens before any of that - and it's the one we lose most often. This week I'm writing about the quiet, constant back-and-forth we have with ourselves about what we're allowed to want and what we talk ourselves out of before anyone else gets the chance to weigh in.
The internal negotiation
Most of us think of negotiation as something that happens at a table with something significant at stake. But there's a negotiation that happens before any of that - and it's the one we lose most often. This week I'm writing about the quiet, constant back-and-forth we have with ourselves about what we're allowed to want and what we talk ourselves out of before anyone else gets the chance to weigh in.
Leaders are experience architects
Every leader is designing an experience for the people around them - most of us just haven't thought about it in those terms. This week I'm drawing on what the events world continues to teach me about intentional design, presence, and knowing your audience.
The one skill that changes every other skill: emotional regulation
The people who get the most from their network are usually the ones focused on what they can give, not what they can get. That shift changes everything about how networking feels.
How to get what you need from someone who doesn't know you need it
Most leaders aren't ignoring what you need - they just can't see it. But you can change that, and it starts with getting clear enough to ask.
How to get what you need from someone who doesn't know you need it
The people who get the most from their network are usually the ones focused on what they can give, not what they can get. That shift changes everything about how networking feels.
The connector’s mindset
The people who get the most from their network are usually the ones focused on what they can give, not what they can get. That shift changes everything about how networking feels.
Coaching as a retention strategy
Losing a good person costs more than keeping them would have. Coaching is one of the most direct investments you can make in the people worth keeping.
Nobody taught you how to do this
Most people step into leadership without a roadmap, because nobody gives you one. The good news is that figuring it out as you go isn't a sign you're doing it wrong - it's just what leadership actually looks like.
“I should already have the answers by now”
The pressure to already know is one of the quietest forms of self-sabotage. Not having the answer isn't a gap in your leadership - it's where the real learning starts.
What it means to be a professional
Being a professional isn't a title or a dress code. It's a standard you hold yourself to, especially when no one is watching and it would be easier not to.
Action alleviates anxiety
When anxiety shows up, the instinct is to wait until things feel clearer. But action - even imperfect action - is usually what creates the clarity.